Living now is important. Making sure our future self can FIRE and live a great life is also important. Balancing both is a challenge.
A few weekends ago, We had a great time. It can serve as a template for out future life.
During the week, my wife and I restarted with an old habit: the no-gadget evening. This means we can not watch TV and can not use the internet. This creates a great opportunity to set up some us-time. Having 2 kids and jobs, this is not always easy. Our first evening like this was a great success. We were able to discuss in greater detail what we did the last week, were we want to go in our life. Not that we do not do this normally, the talks often stay too close to the surface.
The work week brought some satisfaction as well. A handful of tasks were finally completed.
On Friday, I got to get some party time. With a good friend, we went to a techno concert of a German DJ. Wow, wow wow. We had a great time. I can’t remember that I danced 2,5 hours straight in a row. And we were not the only ones… Most people had a great time on the beats. The DJ returned no less than 4 times, as we kept asking for more.
Before the concert, we did some catching up. It is at times like this that you realise that living now is key.
Later that weekend, our daughters had a performance with their gym club. They were really proud when I took them to the final repetition. They were even more proud during the show: the grand parents were there to see the show. Their part in the show lasted about 8 minutes and was themed Superman!
We also try to bring them some culture. On Sunday morning we took them to a kids theatre play about a cook. This was a great play with a lot of interactivity for the kids. Our oldest even got to go on stage to help out the cook with his story. Great experience for them.
Why do I share all of that?
The more I think about FIRE, the more I realise we need to live the life we want now
Striving for FIRE is not as such a goal. It is the journey towards a free life that is really interesting. Being able to do things you like and value is top. It makes the effort we take look so easy. They even do not look like an effort. The budgeting we do becomes a habit and is almost effort less, we have fun money to pay for our entertainment, we manage to save and invest in a highly automated way. All these contribute to enjoying life now while taking care of our future self.
How do you balance between living now and saving for later?
Excellent post! This is what a lot of people are missing. It’s not about money, it’s about freedom. Freedom to do whatever YOU want with your life. Freedom not to worry about the ‘what if’s’ in life.
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Great post, AT. It sounds like you are doing really well in balancing between having fun and enjoying the journey and keeping an eye on the budgeting side of things. I havent been to a techno event in a few years — lots of good memories 🙂
cheers
R2R
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The techno itch really got me now… I am looking with a friend to go to another this year. Did someone say midlife?
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Balance is critically important ATL. Great job striving for that balance, and exposing your kiddos to culture. We try to do the same, but my wife is better at balancing today than I am. I hope you have a great week!
-Bryan
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I’m with you – I want the life now!! 🙂
For me, it’s all about patience… I’ve figured out the numbers and know when I can call it quits. And that’s made me want to strive to do even more to push the date up so I can enjoy that life sooner than later.
— Jim
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Living now is equally important to me as taking care of my future self! My numbers our calculated as well, and I am in peace with it. Execute and be patient from now on.
Oh yeah, and live!
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Wise words my Belgian neighbour, wise words.
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Thx CF!
Jut to let you know. I ran again yesterday. Only 3,5 KM. It is a new start. The knee holds on for now… Fingers crossed
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Hey AT, 3,5 after only a week and a bit of rest is pretty good. Just take it easy, how hard this may be.
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yesterday I did 45 minutes in the gym some sort of cross trainer… Lets see how I feel tomorrow.
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Great stuff. You can’t live your lives constantly looking forward to something else. Because when you “finally” reach the thing you’ve been looking forward to, you don’t know what to do, or you have something else to look forward to. It’s a constant moving target. I wrote an article on this a while ago that might be interesting for you to read (sorry for the shameless self-plug) http://www.tawcan.com/have-do-be-or-be-do-have-that-is-the-question/
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Thx for the share, I have a look
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Hey Amber, nice post. The way I try to do it is, do the things that are fun but cheap now. Then in the future (in a decade or 2) do the fun things that cost a lot, like travelling to other countries. That way we can compound our saved money between now and then, whilst still having a good time now.
Tristan
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That is a good approach as well. The type of fun stuff is less important. As long as you have fun now, the price does not matter.
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Lovely story to illustrate the point. I did struggle with the trade off but realise the same things are important now as in the future – relationships, health and contentment.
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At the start of FIRE, I tended to be too much: lets save for later. But then realized, what with the now?
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Yes same with me, got to get the balance right.
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The road to financial independence is a long one for most of us, so we may as well enjoy the ride! Good story, it’s important not to miss out now while preparing for later. You kids will be all grown up before you know it.
Thankfully the best things in life are free, so spending midfully will sometimes force you to pay more attention to one another 🙂
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kids grow up fast indeed. Too fast. And you only realize this when they are older. That is why I want to be more focused on now with them.
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I love this post! Such a good reminder to be present and live in the now while also planning for the future. Your DJ show made me excited for some techno we’ll get to see and dance to next month — can’t wait! And we definitely need some more of those no-tech evenings or weekend days, and not just put that off until after we retire.
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A good mixture of living ow and early retirement is key to me. Entertainment evenings are a part of that.
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