At the start of this blog, we were driven by our goal of FIRE, the ultimate nirvana to reach. A lot has changed ever since. What we track still stays the same. Do you spot the flaw?
Now that we want a a lot of LifeJoy, FIRE is no longer the end goal. It is a contributor to our end goal. In fact, we no longer have a goal, we try to build systems.
Looking at the things I track and report, I only see numbers that show progress towards FIRE
The amberindex: how far are we in our FIRE journey? This is a financial number
Option income: It is nice to see the numbers, in the end, it is too focused on FI only
Looking at the graph of what really matters, there is much more to measure:
Meaningful things: how many new things do I explore per month? What are my experiences that month? Did I coach someone? Did I learn something new? Was there serendipity?
Quality time: How much screen free time was there with my wife and kids? How often did I meet friends to do a fun thing? Do they see me as a good father and friend?
Say No: was I able to say no to something that makes me unhappy?
Be Healthy: Do we take the time to eat, is our food healthy, do I move enough or am I a couch potato?
When looking at the list of things to track, I think OH MY GOD, that will be a full time job! That can not be the idea. Life is supposed to be fun and easy going, not filled with tracking and metrics. I thus need a more simple solution.
Here Is what I tried before
Happiness jar: On a dutch blog, I came across the idea of an happiness jar. The idea is super cool. Yet, I fail to implement. Right now, I am stuck with random emails to myself about things that made me happy. As an alternative, I was thinking of collecting pictures with a short description. Is there an app for that?
Being grateful: Each night when I put the kids to bed, I ask them what they are grateful for. And then I tell my top 3 as well. Hard to say if right now this is helping
What other ideas do you see?